*now she feels awful for having asked and wishes that she hadn't brought it up either*

I am so sorry, that must have been terrible. I had no idea that had happened to him, I can understand why he would want to avoid it after that.

*she pauses for a moment, looking thoughtful*

But is it not better to be a more substantial person to do those kinds of things? If someone as slight as me were to attempt them I would not be strong enough I am sure.