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[am-i-alpacino.livejournal.com]

What's so wrong about wanting marriage?

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[politics-pays.livejournal.com]

Nothing, last I checked. Perfectly respectable.

[am-i-alpacino.livejournal.com]

I wish my boyfriend saw it that way. I could think of a long list of rather grueling and unfortunate activities he'd rather partake in than marrying me.

[politics-pays.livejournal.com]

Then the man is clearly a fool who doesn't deserve the honor.

[exception2rule.livejournal.com]

Nothing. Absolutely nothing. And its not like you are rushing into it before knowing the guy, I mean you have been with Neil forever. It is only the logical next step!

[am-i-alpacino.livejournal.com]

Exactly. I don't think I'm being unreasonable...am I being unreasonable? Maybe I'm expecting too much from him. He's already given me his time and energy. What's a ring on this finger anyway...

[exception2rule.livejournal.com]

You aren't being unreasonable at all. Maybe he was going to ask you but now with all the pressure he is nervous. He probably needs just a bit more time.

[dr-tbrennan.livejournal.com]

Nothing, so long as you actually want it for your own reasons and not because society tells women that's what we are supposed to want.

I, myself, do not see the point.

[am-i-alpacino.livejournal.com]

I want to get married because the thought of being without Neil kills me. I want to build a family and have a life together. Sure, a tiny superficial aspect of me would like to have my extravagant "big day", but the majority of my want is based on Neil alone.

You've never wanted it?

[dr-tbrennan.livejournal.com]

I respect other peoples' right to their own choices, but I have never thought of marriage as a necessity. A piece of paper, a ring and a ceremony do not guarantee the happiness of two people. And on an anthropological level, marriage is an antiquated ritual that holds no weight in the modern world.

Do you feel you could not stay together and build a life without the ritual of marriage?

[faiththatfuelsu.livejournal.com]

Some folks have trouble picking what they wanna wear for the day. Marriage is like knowing that you're buying a single tie or pair of shoes for the rest of your life.

[am-i-alpacino.livejournal.com]

But why has familiarity suddenly become such a bad thing? I was under the impression a pretty large group of people disliked change.

[faiththatfuelsu.livejournal.com]

There's familiar, and there's boring. For every person afraid of change, there's two that are afraid of living the same thing day in and day out.

[boygeneral.livejournal.com]

It takes a person's focus off more important things.

[am-i-alpacino.livejournal.com]

You don't think marriage is important?

[boygeneral.livejournal.com]

Perhaps it is to some people, but only because they are fools who have become distracted from the truly great issues.

[getflacked.livejournal.com]

Nothin' wrong with it. That's something I want myself.

[am-i-alpacino.livejournal.com]

Finally, an ally! I expected another comment on the pointlessness of it all.

[getflacked.livejournal.com]

*grins* I'm all for marriage and I don't see it as pointless. I just haven't found the 'one' yet.

[how-youdoin.livejournal.com]

Oh no, Raaach! Ross got to you too?!

[am-i-alpacino.livejournal.com]

I...who's Ross?

[how-youdoin.livejournal.com]

...did you two have a fight? Because if you did don't bring Joey into it! He's happy not knowing things!

[fugitiveboss.livejournal.com]

Who said there was?

[am-i-alpacino.livejournal.com]

Several men, women, and (possibly) children I've spoken to. In addition, of course, to my boyfriend of seven years.

[like-atrick.livejournal.com]

Nothing's...wrong with wanting it.

[am-i-alpacino.livejournal.com]

But there's something wrong with actually having it?