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*curious* Which 'vow' would that be? Marital bliss?

*nods* Or what WAS marital bliss... until I blew everything all to hell. *sighs* It went better than I expected last night, though the problem I was having before our issues began continues to linger.

*shakes her head* I'm sorry if I'm being obtuse. It's a long story.

*waves apology aside* It is perfectly alright. It is sometimes better to speak to an objective outsider.

Everybody in my circle are either related to me or are friends with my husband, so it's a little tough to get an unbiased perspective.

*hesitates, but speaks* I've been feeling unsettled and insecure in my marriage to my husband for awhile, and I thought I'd finally figured out what was the matter.

My husband and I got together in a manner that hurt a lot of people where we both originated from. I eventually left where we met, but my husband stayed behind. It wasn't long before he joined me but he recently went back to make amends for what he had done. I, on the other hand, am not welcome to go back and make my apologies.

The situation upsets me more than I care to admit, to the point where I am constantly stressed and ill over it. I would really like for him to leave from there again and close that chapter in our lives, but unless I put my foot down and TELL him he must leave, he will continue to stay there. But I cannot in good conscience force his hand, the decision must be his. I fear that is what has been causing the rift, but what can I do?

((told from the mun perspective: characters got together on one board, pissed off a bunch of other writers. I eventually left of my own accord but the other writer stayed behind, but she eventually pulled J's husband and we went to a new board. time passes and other writer decides to bring J's husband back to patch things up, though the admins at the other board decided it was all my fault and banned me. so here poor J is sick and worried and stressing over the entire thing. :/ I, however, think the entire thing is a load of bull but my hands are as tied as J's are.))

*frowns, considering* I think ... perhaps you should give the situation some time to heal itself. And your husband, if he is truly loyal, will return to you when he is ready. It is likely the worst and most unhelpful piece of advice but all you can really do is wait, however frustrating it may be.

[ooc: That seems very unreasonable of them. I'm assuming that it was indeed an RPG board? Why couldn't they get together? Erik's spending his time talking to Time Lords/Ladies and wizards for Heaven's sake. I hardly think it would be commonplace in Phantom canon, but who's to say he can't?]

*sighs* A year's not enough? *winces* Sorry. I don't really have to really worry much about Trev leaving, as the boy loves me so much it's ridiculous. *smiles a little* Though it pains me to say that the outcome of this mess is that he's staying there after all. It would be an even bigger mess if he left, so it's for the best as far as damage control's concerned.

I should clarify, though, he's never 'left', so to speak... he leads a double life, as I do.

((ooc: in other words, two different boards. yes, it was an RPG board and the mods there are controlling monsters. it's only gotten worse from what I've heard through Jordie's husband's mun. and what started the mess in the first place was that J and T cheated on their boyfriends and girlfriends. not their finest moment, that's for sure.))

In that case, I cannot understand why he feels obligated to stay behind.

[ooc: That seems very unfair. That's what pups do! They get into weird relationships with people and relationships end. Erik's a murderer! It's just part of his personality. If your pup was to have an affair or whatever that situation was then so be it. Not that I'm bashing mods. We need them. Communities would fall apart without them but what happened to the three strikes rule?]