http://questionorigin.livejournal.com/ ([identity profile] questionorigin.livejournal.com) wrote in [community profile] sixwordstories2008-10-04 02:07 am

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He deserves to know.

.....Doesn't he?

[identity profile] guarddevil.livejournal.com 2008-10-04 07:10 am (UTC)(link)
That's a tough call to make most of the time.

[identity profile] guarddevil.livejournal.com 2008-10-04 07:12 am (UTC)(link)
I've been there myself. Actually, I dealt with something similar quite recently. It ended up working out better than I thought, but I think that was because so much time passed between the other person finding out and my keeping it from him. He grudgingly accepted it.

It's possible this someone will surprise you.

Re: Locked, locked, locked, and more locked

[identity profile] guarddevil.livejournal.com 2008-10-04 07:17 am (UTC)(link)
I... But in some ways that daughter is still his. He raised her, right? He supported her and loved her like a father. Yes, it changes things, but it doesn't change his role in her life.

I think you would have to open with explaining what you were going to say would have a profound effect on his view of certain things? That you were worried or concerned about his reaction?

Re: Locked

[identity profile] guarddevil.livejournal.com 2008-10-04 07:29 am (UTC)(link)
Because this father ought to love her. This father has been there for her and her mother from the beginning. He may hate that other person, but how can he hate the child he raised?

I think it will hurt him, but I think he will have to realize the daughter never knew. If you're this upset, make sure you're this upset when you speak to him. He needs to know how hard this is for you. That you're going through this pain together.

No, it's all right. Believe me, I know it's hard to disappoint a parent, especially your father. But this daughter... you... Either way, she did nothing wrong. It's not her fault.

Re: Locked

[identity profile] guarddevil.livejournal.com 2008-10-04 07:40 am (UTC)(link)
But surely he can separate you from this other person. You're not this other man even if you are his daughter. And even then that's nothing you could control or know.

The person he'll be mad at the most will probably be your mother. She lied. She betrayed him in all the ways that matter. You can't be held responsible for that. I don't care who the other man is.

I don't think he should hurt you. At all. That's not going to solve anything.

Re: Locked

[identity profile] guarddevil.livejournal.com 2008-10-04 08:27 am (UTC)(link)
Then... I think really he needs to know and everyone needs to talk about it after. Failing that, you have to tell him the truth and be honest about your feelings. I can't... It doesn't make sense for him to hurt you. To me. He's your father.

Re: Locked

[identity profile] guarddevil.livejournal.com 2008-10-04 08:32 am (UTC)(link)
I wish I could help.

You are his though. A father... I don't see how he could fail to remember nineteen years of you being his daughter all because something changes. You're still that girl he raised.

Re: Locked

[identity profile] guarddevil.livejournal.com 2008-10-04 08:39 am (UTC)(link)
You are not to blame for the events that shape a time before you were born. The other man sounds like he's probably eagerly waiting for everything to fall apart. Don't give him that satisfaction. Hopefully your father won't either.

Revenge... might not be the best idea right now. Just have trust and faith in your father, the man you consider to be your father.

Re: Locked

[identity profile] guarddevil.livejournal.com 2008-10-04 05:49 pm (UTC)(link)
I think if your father really hates this man, he will blame him completely and utterly for what's happening.

Then... Maybe I would destroy the building. I had a hard time letting things go when my father was killed.